The first year is mostly research with regular hours followed by those daunting 3 years. I have been happily married to a non-mormon for 20 years. The brethren have taught that there is an ideal pattern for marriage. It is always a nice idea to plan for your date in advance. I am the same good faithful woman I always was, just on a different path than I ever expected, one full of insights and blessings I never knew could exist. All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem. I believe that there will be a lot more mercy than justice being dished out at the judgment.
She can only get sealed to him in a Mormon temple. Doctors are, for the most part, extremely responsible and determined. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here. My husband, regardless of religious affiliation, is a beloved son of our Heavenly Father who is very much worthy of my love, affection and dedication. I completely agree, but I think the critical part is that he needs to talk to her. I let people assume what they will. It is crucial to recognize that Mormonism has elements of belief, practice, and custom that work to make interfaith marriages especially difficult and inconvenient for both spouses. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. Posts from people who have your same problem occur on a regular basis here on RFM. That's a really sad story.
I do not see this going well. Marrying a non-Mormon is not something you do it is something that happens. I could never put up with the crap he has to put up with but he could never put up with the loneliness I have to put up with Awww this makes me sooo sad.
I hear you, I need my down time to decompress and watch stuff on the Internet, haha. The Mormon university BYU is quickly falling due to these feminists. You got some good advice from the other posters on how to maintain contact. There will be struggles in marriage and childrearing whether or not he is a member. Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change.